Wednesday, October 29, 2014


I’ve been wearing blond braids for almost a week now and while I do love my hair I could do with a little less attention on the streets. Don’t get me wrong; it’s great to hear someone telling me how great they think it looks and, just like everyone else, I do like compliments but there are certain instances when it becomes catcalling. 
Men on the streets who presumably mistake me for a woman holler things like “hey baby”, “sweetie” and all that crappy stuff they usually say to make women feel uncomfortable walking these streets. Mostly, people pick up on the fact that I am just a boy with braids on and when they do these are some of the reactions I have very quickly learnt to expect:
- Whispers about what a “faggot” I am
- Stares (others literally stop and stare until I disappear around a corner or into a store)
- Offers to help me out with whatever I am carrying
- … and, and, and…

I understand that people are most probably fascinated by the way I currently look and, like I said earlier, I do appreciate a well-meaning compliment. Being a gay man, especially having spent most of my adult life commuting through Johannesburg’s busy CBD, I am quite accustomed to having people throw insults at me for simply walking the streets. It could be my skinny jeans or even a bright coloured shirt (or a blouse, which I love wearing) and some people will feel the need to point out: “staban’”, “moffie”, etc, as if poor little me forgot that I am not straight. 
I’ve come to understand why some gay men choose to be “straight acting” and why some even choose to be strict about dating “straight acting” gay men (besides the fact that some are just bowing down to heteronormativity, at times without even realising it). 
Few of us are strong enough to withstand the constant barrage of insults (and women, I salute you!) and some choose not to associate themselves with individuals who are potential subjects of petty discrimination, I understand that. Few of us are standing up for what’s right perhaps for fear of being victimised for it ourselves. 
Imagine a world where people who know what’s right don’t keep silent when their friends catcall a woman or throw homophobic insults at gay men. Imagine a world where we didn’t have to censor ourselves out of fear of the outside world’s reaction to whatever it is we choose to wear or however we choose to present ourselves. Imagine a world where I don’t have to think about it 20 times before I walk outside to buy myself a cigarette. Imagine a world where I don’t have to actually choose between a taxi and a cab simply because sometimes I am just not in the mood to face all of those whispers, stares and giggles inside a public taxi. Imagine a world where I can just do any damn hairstyle I want and not feel like I’ve done something wrong!

Wednesday, October 15, 2014


Missshape today launched its third ambassadors collaboration, this time with Yasmin Furmie. I really have no clue who Miss Furmie is but I do like what they've done here. The Missshape signature remains along with the minimalist, sporty vibe first initiated in the debut Ambassadors collection featuring Anthea Poulos, but this particular drop takes it a little further with miss Furmie's style as the foundation, of course. In case, like me, you are wondering who she is and what it is about her style that Missshape found inspiring, the media release describes her as someone with an "unusual" fashion story:

"...from her modelling days in Sydney and LA, to her involvement in social work projects and now, as a figure who is becoming ever more present on the South African fashion scene. It is hard not to notice Furmie, she has developed her own language through a sophisticated dress-code that moves from refined street wear, to sharp menswear inspired styling and her contemporary take on the “new look”. It was this language that formed the basis of the new Ambassadors collection..." 


Art Direction & Design  - Lex Trickket 
Photography - Vatic Studio (Brett Rubin & Nicole Van Heerden)
Styling -  Yasmin Furmie 
Make Up - Tamaryn Swartz 
Model - Adera Kachienga 
Production - Vatic Studio  (Brett Rubin & Nicole Van Heerden)

Monday, October 13, 2014


Took some inspo from Solange to put my outfit together yesterday and I must say I felt really good. If you visit her blog here the first image that appears on there is what I tried to interpret here for my skinny little self. I love that clothes make me feel good. It's my favourite thing about them, this ability to make you feel superhuman, like there's actually nothing standing in the way between yourself and greatness!
The blouse, which is totes just... cray, amay, is a vintage find. Think I got it for something silly like R20 at a store in Rosebank (not Jozi, Cape Town) and those amazing shorts are from the Studio W collection at Woolworths. I saw them once and knew I absolutely had to have them. Thank heavens I don't have gender anxiety about clothes. The pants are womenswear, but for me, naturally, there's no such thing. The entire store is an open floor for me! Thank you adidas for the Stan Smiths and, of course, Sunglass Hut for those pretty Prada shades.
Anyway. Miss Knowles is not only responsible for inspiring my totes cray, amay look but she's also responsible for my discovery of the band Chromeo. How cool are they? She features on one of their tracks titled "Lost on the Way Home". I'm totally obsessed with it and hope you will like it, too. I'm all about sharing, so here's a Soundcloud... Take a listen and tell me if this shit ain't da biznis...